Bethany School Days

 

It has been more that 12 years since the last time i was at Bethany! I have never been back there even once since then (hopefully i will go sometime). I remember some things and i have forgotten some, so i thought it will be a good idea to pen down my memories in a blog post.

In this post, i am intentionally not naming any specific teachers or friends as i can’t mention everyone and i don’t want to leave anyone out…

I was part of Bethany Convent School from class 2nd to 10th. I have some wonderful memories of school. The teachers there literally created the foundation of my life. The quality of teaching was so good that me and all of my classmates never went to tuition class till class 10th! And these days we see school kids in nursery and KG going for tuition classes! The teachers there were top notch and most of them loved teaching! From facebook i know that many of them teach even today…

Although Bethany is a Catholic led school, there were teachers and students who were Hindus, Muslims, Christians and others. I have friends from all the religions and it was always fun to know about their festivals, traditions and customs. We celebrated Eid, Diwali and Christmas with same excitement! There were never any implicit or explicit ways to enforce any religious beliefs on others. Even in the moral science class, we were taught generic life principles while the Christians were separately taught about Bible. Looking at the intolerance in people over small small issues these days, i think Bethany specially created a notion in us that progress as a whole is only possible by taking everyone together ahead as they are without enforcing our beliefs on others!

They knew back then that rote learning is of no use in the long term. I remember, when i was in class 3rd, they was an announcement that from now on in the exams, the questions won’t be just from the questions at the end of the chapter, they can ask anything from the textbook! I remember there was question, “Which is the longest bone in the body?”, it wasn’t there in the pre-defined questions and i didn’t remember the answer and the teacher wrote on my answer sheet that the answer is “Femur” and to study the chapter thoroughly ๐Ÿ˜€ Even in higher classes, it was never mandatory to answer the questions, exactly as it was taught in class. We could write it in our own words and it would be okay as long as the answer meant the same / similar thing.

Bethany gave me some of the most awesome friends for lifetime! I am not in touch with most of you guys, but i do remember most of you.. From having lunches together, playing games like Basketball, participating in events, interesting discussions in class to just growing up together! You guys made school life fun! ๐Ÿ˜€

Some of the memories i remember of my school days (it’s a long list in random order)…

  • There were just two openings in class 2nd and more than 50 kids had applied! We had a three hour entrance test! Me and one more girl were selected and the school put up our answer sheets on the board to justify to other parents why they took us and not others ๐Ÿ˜€
  • The day i joined, there was some song competition in which the entire class participated and i felt so left out..
  • In class 3rd, the two sections were interconnected and there was a door in between. Whenever one section made noise, the teacher from other section would come and say, “why are you making classroom a fishmarket!” ๐Ÿ˜€
  • In class 4th and 5th, when we started writing with ink pen (which was a big deal back then ๐Ÿ™‚ ) we were taught to write in cursive the proper way, and i’m sure if you check anyone’s handwriting from my class, it will be nice and beautiful!
  • In one class, when the class teacher used to be absent due to some reason, she used to send me detailed notes as to what was to be done in each period, so that we were on track and didn’t waste time. And i liked that kind of responsibility.
  • In primary school, we used to discuss freaky Aahat stories (a horror show) in breaks! ๐Ÿ˜€
  • As kids, it was fun for us when teachers used to ask us to bring chalk sticks or to keep the notebooks in the staff room ๐Ÿ™‚
  • In primary school, we used to quickly finish writing the exams so that we could play with our bench mate till the time is up ๐Ÿ˜€
  • Whenever a teacher was absent, we had a substitute teacher and in primary school we always wished that our substitute teacher was our games teacher or PT Sir so that we could go out and play ๐Ÿ˜€
  • That reminds me of the games class, it started with some basic PT exercises and then we were free to do whatever we wanted. Our games changed over the years… From just running around, Skipping, Hide and Seek, Ice-Water, Kho-Kho, Man in the middle, Kerchief game, Badminton, Table Tennis and Basketball.
  • We were divided in houses by color: Red, Green, Blue and Yellow. I was in Blue house and blue was my favorite color. But almost all my friends were in Red house. In our graduating year, Blue house won the best house award ๐Ÿ˜€
  • Specially in classes 8th, 9th and 10th we had some interesting poems in English and Hindi literature and we had some very interesting discussions in class. I don’t remember the exact discussions now, but they are some beautiful memories.
  • Parent teacher meeting and result day was a big thing! We were curious what comments we would get in the report card and what our teachers would tell to our parents. Also it was fun to get new books each year and to put covers on it during the vacation. I read all the English and Hindi chapters as stories as soon as we got new books ๐Ÿ˜€
  • In class 10th, slam books were a craze, people filled them up with glitter pens ๐Ÿ˜€ That reminds me i should look for my slam book somewhere ๐Ÿ™‚
  • We said prayers atleast three time a day, in the morning assembly, before going for lunch and before going home.
  • I was part of the school choir and i was so fun to sing some of those songs! The first song in our song book was “All things bright and beautiful”.
  • Our morning assembly had a specific structure: Prayer, Prayer Song, 5 minute meditation, Thought for the day, News Headlines, Message from the Principal, Another Song, Pledge and National Anthem. We had speakers in every class, and on all days, except one day we had morning assembly in the classroom.
  • On every Thursday, we had a long meditation session instead of the usual assembly. One of the teachers used to conduct the meditation starting with breathing exercise and then there used to be a long pause. One student used to go to each of the class room around that time with a dhoop (incense stick). The school had a unique clam vibe during those meditation sessions. Our school knew about the benefits of meditation for students before it was a fad!
  • The sports day and annual day were so much fun! We used to prepare for it for weeks in advance and it used to be a grand event.
  • Celebrating festivals was awesome! We used to have inter house patriotic song competition on Independence and Republic Day. And i still remember how the auditorium used to sound and the overall vibe when 50 kids sang Vande Mataram or Maa Tujhe Salaam or Chhodo kal ki baatein! It literally gave goosebumps!
  • For major festivals, we used to have a separate longer morning assembly with related cultural programs like skit, dance and song performance and talks!
  • There were boards for each house and there used to be (monthly?) competitions as to which house decorated their house board best!
  • Being Secretary in the school cabinet and then winning the Best Cabinet Member award are some of the memories i cherish! One of my responsibilities was to conduct morning assembly everyday.
  • Our school library was a cool place and it was stacked with books! Those days i was a huge Enid Blyton fan and read Famous Five, Secret Seven, Adventure Series and Malory Tower series. Later i read some of the classics here. We used to have one library period per week when we had to issue and return books. However one week was too long for me, i used to gulp down these books in a day or two! ๐Ÿ˜€ During summer vacations, one special request, i used to get multiple books issued to read over the vacation.
  • We were so competitive during school days, and i guess that’s why i got it so much ingrained in me. After exams, we could never wait till the result day to know our rank in class. So around 10 students in our class, each created a table with person wise and subject wise marks. We updated the table when we got the marks of any subject. Finally we totalled it out to calculate relative rank and percentage! I mean seriously! ๐Ÿ˜€ Just like it is prohibited to reveal salary details in corporate, it should be prohibited to reveal marks to others in school ๐Ÿ˜€
  • In class 9th biology, when we had the plant and animal kingdom hierarchies and weird names and it involved so much of memorization! That’s when i decided i won’t take Biology after 10th.
  • In mid school, our science notebooks had the left page blank and the right page was ruled. We used to draw the related drawings on the blank page. I was really good a drawing from plant details, organisms like amoeba to digestive system. Getting a good, very good or excellent for a drawing used to be a big deal ๐Ÿ˜€
  • Till primary school we had Art and Craft class where we learnt drawing and making origami. From secondary school it was converted to SUPW, where boys learnt painting and girls learnt a variety of stuff like different stitches, knitting etc. I started with these things but sometimes it was difficult for me complete them as it needed a lot of patience and repetitive work ๐Ÿ˜€ So finally i used to seek my mom’s help ๐Ÿ˜‰
  • Those days i could write really nice essays with relevant quotes on a variety of topics very fast. I have hardly written in hindi after school, i hope i haven’t forgotten the script!
  • Our campus was awesome! There were huge neem trees all around. A huge ground to play. A big auditorium. And spacious well lit classes with big windows! A seat near a door or window was treasured ๐Ÿ˜€ There were benches under the neem trees all around the ground and that’s where we chilled in our games period and lunch breaks. The red and white brick building had a charm of its own!

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  • Eagles used to circle over the ground during lunch breaks and would sweep down to pick up a fallen chappati.
  • Our class was very united. At no cost did anyone rat out others, we faced the consequences of our mischiefs and pranks together ๐Ÿ˜€
  • Every group had a specific place for lunch. And it was fun to discuss stuff and have lunch together! In primary school, we were in a hurry to finish lunch as soon as possible so that we could play.
  • We had to make thermocol models in classes 10th and i remember i had created sulphur extraction cut out and reproduction in amoeba cut out myself! It came out really well, and all these models by each one of us were put up in the labs.
  • Science labs were cool! From looking at things under a microscope, creating a herbarium file classifying leaves, experiments like titration to doing experiments with lenses and prisms it was always so exciting!
  • The motto of our school was Love and Service ๐Ÿ™‚ And the logo is below:

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  • We had an yearly school magazine, and we submitted articles and poems which were shoristed and included in it.
  • Visiting Sisters who stayed in the convent on Christmas, admiring the crib they decorated and relishing the Christmas special cake was fun!
  • We dressed our best on yearly class photo shoots with ironed shirts, blazers and polished shoes. Now it is so fun to look at our own and our friends’ younger versions in those photos ๐Ÿ˜€
  • After entering the school, there are two trees, the left one was planted in front of us on some occasion.
  • All around the school, there were boards with inspiring quotes written. Just near the stairs near the KG section was the quote – “Great minds discuss ideas, Average minds discuss events, Small minds discuss people.” One needed to just walk around the school to get inspired!
  • Once a week, we had to wear white dress in school. It was fun to wear our house t-shirts on that day. The school looked very colorful and bright. Also sometimes white shoes were checked and it was required that the white shoes are white and clean. We had chalk pieces to our rescue in such cases ๐Ÿ˜€
  • It was so exciting to take part in a variety of events. In class 3rd, I wore saree for the whole day with such ease, where we were showing how people in different states of India dressed! Our team went till the state final in Indian Science Congress in class 7th where we created a project on importance of nutrition. In a science demo, I presented metal ball rolling in a loop to show centrifugal force.
  • In primary and mid school we used to have dictation test to make sure our spellings were correct. There were separate grammar books in English and Hindi. Thus now, mostly our spellings are correct and our grammar is good and we cringe when someone makes such kind of spelling / grammatical mistakes.
  • Sanskrit was a difficult language to learn. And if you didn’t understand it correctly, then a lot of memorization was required! Still remember – ti, taha, anti ๐Ÿ˜‚

Overall, Bethany Convent School was an awesome school! We knew this back then too, but in hindsight it is even more evident.. I have some of the most precious memories of this place! Had some of the most amazing teachers who loved teaching and were actually interested in shaping us and cared for our well being. Made some amazing friends for lifetime whom i can always reach out to even though i might not be in regular touch with them.

Thanks Bethany for being an ideal school that a kid needs as a foundation for life!

I wish i was not in a hurry to grow up back then, probably would have had some more fun in school then! They say school days are the best and most carefree and fun days of our life, but then, kids in school don’t know that when they are in school!

P.S.

  • My friends from Bethany, please feel free to add some of your memories of Bethany school days in the comments.
  • All pics except the first one are from BCS website.
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Thought Experiment: Deep Learning on Life

Quick Refresher on Neural Networks
A feed forward neural network (referred as NN in future) has three types of layers: input layer, hidden layers and output layer. There are two main stages of using a NN: training stage and testing stage. In the training stage, the input is fed via the input layer and then it passes through multiple hidden layers (that’s why it’s called deep) and finally through an output layer. At the output layer, we get the output of NN for the given input and we also have the corresponding expected output. The difference between expected or true output and computed output is called ‘loss’ and it is backpropagated through the NN and the weights of the hidden layers are updated so as to minimize the loss in future. This process is repeated multiple times to train the NN. Then at test stage, a new input is fed to the NN and we get the corresponding output.

Applying Deep Learning and Neural Networks on Life

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I thought it might be an interesting thought experiment to try applying a basic Deep Learning Neural Network model on our life! (Probably effect of too much Deep Learning ๐Ÿ˜€ ) The overall idea is shown in the figure above. All the inputs from the five sense organs (things we see, hear, taste, smell and touch) are transformed and fed as input to the NN. The deep hidden layers further process this information. At the output end, the output is transformed into multiple output metrics like happiness, satisfaction, peace of mind, monetary benefit and many more. Our life’s NN is mostly in training mode. Each and every experience is transformed and fed into the input layer and then it passes through hidden and output layers. For every experience, we have its corresponding expectation called the output vector. Our expectations have a different score for each of the different output metrics. And the difference between expectation and output called loss is backpropagated to train the NN. Thus our model is trained by the experiences of our life so far. Every experience is a training sample. At test time, we give the test experience as input to this trained model and take some major/minor decision based on the output which affects the experiences (future inputs) which we will face in future. Thus the decisions we take in our life, at any point, are based on the experiences we have had in our life so far and our expectations of each of those experiences.

The usual Gyaan derived from NNs:

* Sometimes we think some people are crazy when they take certain decisions in life, however it is wrong to judge others as we can never put ourselves in other’s shoes firstlyย because we don’t know what all things they have experienced in their lives and secondly because we don’t know what exactly are their expectations from their own lives. So it makes sense to stop judging others!

* Sometimes, our own decisions may seem crazy. That might be because the weights of our output metrics (expectations) might be significantly different from the usual weights of other people, and in such case, it makes sense to embrace our crazy self!

* Training our life’s NN, just in itself is very hard task! And then if we start taking other people’s expectations into account while training our NN, it is very difficult to attain a stable convergent model. So it makes sense to live our life and make decisions in our life based on our own terms and stop caring about the char log (random strangers)!

* If we have too high expectations in our life, then mostly the loss is also higher than usual and the model is frequently updating. These frequent updates require more energy. So it makes sense to be prepared and to practice to stay strong in order to efficiently keep training the NN in case one has very high expectations from life. Similarly having no expectations doesn’t make sense, because in that case, the model does not have any guidelines. Thus it helps to know and set our expectations in advance.

* It is difficult to train NN with little data. As we experience new experiences, we train our NN better. So even in case of our life’s NN, acche din (good days) are coming as we keep experiencing new experiences!

* Sometimes if you feel that life is screwed up (you are stuck in a local minima or a saddle point) and the NN of life is not doing any good, it is ALWAYS possible to make some changes in the parameters so as to resume effective training of the NN. It will be hard but not impossible. The loss function will always have its ups and downs. Stay strong, have hope and don’t give up!

* At any point in time, every person is at a different stage of training their NN. Also every person has faced different experiences and has different expectations. Structurally and parameter wise also, the NNs will be very different. So it does not make any sense to be competitive and compare each other! It makes sense to share strategies which help in training the NN better. Life is actually NOT a race! Cooperation is better than competition!

* If you find mentors who genuinely care for you, then preserve and nurture those relationships, they can guide and motivate you in difficult times. Same thing applies to real friends and family, they can be your pillars of support. It makes sense to learn to network and build lasting meaningful relationships. (Networking can be hard for introverts like me, but then it is all about quality not quantity!)

* Our education is like initialization and running few initial epochs to setup the NN of life. Initial conditions are very important. Also the closer our education is to real life, the better prepared we will be in future! Stop memorization and rote learning.

* Just like high end GPUs can significantly improve the training speeds as compared to normal CPUs, similarly we can make the life’s NN train much better if we maintain good health. It makes sense to eat healthy, exercise and stay fit.

* Sometimes if we compare two consecutive iterations, we might not notice any significant change which in turn might make us doubt ourselves and our abilities and we might question if anything is truly happening? are we on the right track? and so on. It is very rare to get great short term results. It makes sense to be patient and focus on long term results.

* Even if you meet or exceed expectations on one of the output metrics while the other metric scores are significantly low (for example your experiences have a high monetary value and low score of peace of mind or vice versa), in that case, overall the loss is going to be very high i.e. things are going to be hard. It also shows that lopsided expectations and outcomes are bad and it makes sense to work towards holistic, all round development.

P.S.

* Ofcourse real life is a lot more complex and no model can exactly mimic it. This NN model is also an attempt to model some of the significant features of life.

* I could have titled this post as Feed Forward Neural Network on Life but then Deep Learning on Life sounds way cooler! ๐Ÿ˜€

Sailors

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Ships in the Sea

The oceans and seas have sailors young and old,
Having ships to sail around the world.
Some ships are simple while others made of gold!
Yet all sailors have a common aim to sail to lands unknown.

Every ship at any point in time is hit by different waves,
Yet if you think, at an abstract level, all waves are the same.
Some waves may be gentle while others may hit powerfully hard,
Every sailor must be prepared to face the waves, gentle or hard!

The oceans and seas will have fishes, pearls and icebergs as well.
Similarly the approaching land might be a desert, jungle or a volcano.
The sailor must be prepared to tackle and learn,
From the varied diversity of sea and land.

Some sailors know where they want to go,
While others just go on along with the flow.
The unknown lands may be near or far,
They may be exactly what the sailors imagined or completely apart.

Some relax and have fun while being off sea,
Make merry and celebrate on the stable land.
While others use that time to enhance their anchored ships,
And make themselves stronger to face challenges.

All sailors by nature, never like to stay on the land too long,
After few days, months or years on land, they feel the oceans calling for their souls!
They then pack up to explore new lands,
Afterall how long can a sailor be on land?

Sometimes, after repeatedly sailing and living on shore,
Life may seem like an endless loop!
But then staying at a point may be comfortable,
However then there is going to be nothing new!

While sailing and on land, they meet fellow sailors,
Make friends with them and learn from each other’s experiences.
They must however sail independently,
As all ships are designed for one sailor alone.

Sometimes, sailors may envy other sailors’ experiences or fancy ships,
But then all these are enhancements while the primary goal for all is to sail.
Nothing stops sailors with smaller or simpler ships from sailing to better lands,
And to improve themselves, as well as their ships with resources available at hand.

Over a period of time, all sailors experience sailing as well as living on different lands,
Each of their experiences are very different and yet the same from a higher stand!
The more they travel and the more they explore,
The deeper they can unravel their own selves to the core!

Image Source – http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Michael_Zeno_Diemer_-_Ship_at_Sea.jpg

“Newer us” meets “Older us”

Sometimes we leave behind some places and move on,
To find new lands and to learn different things,
But we don’t leave like the person we came,
We have been transformed,
By the people, the place and the experiences.

A part of us, decides to stay back…
And, everytime when we go back,
The newer us meets the older us,
And both of them, talk with each other,
As there are a lot of things to catch up on…
The newer us shares the news of the outside world,
As well as the newer lessons learnt and experiences gained,
And the older us turns nostalgic and reminisces of the old times,
It also tells how the place has transformed since the time we left,

And after this discussion, the combined us,
Starts to think if the newer us is better or the older us?
But the truth is that neither is better in itself,
It is the combined us with the combined knowledge and experiences,
Which turns out to be wiser…

And then when the time comes to leave that place again,
The older us decides to stay back, a bit wiser
And the newer us thinks back of the good old days…
Both will be back from where they came and where the belong,
But both have transformed a lot in the process,

And the place where it all happened, feels like home…
And its people, like family…
And the knowledge gained, priceless…

Quest of HappYness

The quest of happYness will take you far and wide,
Make you do all sort of crazy things to bring outย funny side.

The quest of happYness will shake you & won’t let you sleep,
Even in your dreams new ideas to seek fulfilment will creep.

The quest of happYness will always keep you on the go,
Motivate you to move further ahead, even when you feel low.

The quest of happYness might be long and tiring.
However, on every milestone, the results are rewarding.

The quest of happYness is like an infinite loop,
Just keep moving, looking for the upcoming fruit.

The quest of happYness will never probably end,
As permanent lasting happYness is just a pretend.

The quest of happYness teaches of joy even when things may not be perfect,
Just like the ‘Y’ in happYness instead of the usual ‘I’ which you expect.

The quest of happYness shows that sum of parts is more than whole,
The journey is more rewarding than the pleasure of reaching the goal.

The quest of happYness shows that everything is temporary,
As the current source of ecstasy won’t last till eternity.

The quest of happYness also has a deeper and higherย motive,
To make a well-experienced individual, wise as well as emotive.

The quest of happYness is so alluring andย mystique,
Paths may be different but happYness is the aim we all seek.

If a tree falls in a forest…

If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?

Initially it may seem a trivial question, however on second thought its a philosophical question. It all depends on the definition of sound. The meaning of sound is “vibrations that travel through the air or another medium and can be heard when they reach a person’s or animal’s ear.” Thus as per the scientific definition, vibration is sound only if its perceived by the auditory glands of an animal or human. Without the receptor its just vibration and not sound. However philosophically it questions whether the state of an object depends on how it is perceived by a subject. Does something which cannot be perceived by anyone actually exist? And as one can say its not a yes / no answer.

“Two monks were arguing about the temple flag waving in the wind. One said, “The flag moves.” The other said, “The wind moves.” They argued back and forth but could not agree.
The Sixth Ancestor said, “Gentlemen! It is not the wind that moves; it is not the flag that moves; it is your mind that moves.” The two monks were struck with awe.”
– The Mumonkan Case 29, translation by Robert Aitken

I just briefly explained this because of the title and the introductory question. However this post mainly asks questions on similar lines based on how people behave on social networks these days…

If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?

If you met your friends and didn’t check in online, did you actually meet them?

If you visited a new city or country and didn’t update your FB, WhatsApp, Twitter etc DPs did you actually visit?

If you had dinner at a restaurant and didn’t check in on Zomato, did you actually have dinner?

If you got married or had a baby and you didn’t update your ‘status’ on social networks, did it actually happen?

If you changed your job and didn’t immediately update on LinkedIn, did you actually change the job?

If you went on your honeymoon to an exotic location and didn’t post the pics, did you actually go?

If you bought a new house or car and didn’t post a pic on the same day, did you actually buy it?

If you didn’t write a R.I.P. when someone passed away, didn’t they actually rest in peace?

If you saw a sunrise or sunset and didn’t take a selfie (with your back facing the sun), did you actually see a sunrise or sunset?

If you didn’t change the display picture for a cause, do you actually support it?

I can go on and on. My point is simple, lets enjoy the moments of life. Nothing is wrong or bad about posting updates on social networks. Only that it should not be the first thing we think or do. At the end of day, once in a while its ok to post updates about our life. However doing that EVERYDAY for every single thing that happens in the life surely sounds like a bad idea. Believe me, no one actually cares about the constant updates about our life on social networks. Its more like an information source for others. So why not spread some useful, thought provoking, inspiring, interesting or funny information? It might actually be useful for someone. And if the intent of regular online updates is to maintain a log of the happening of our life then the best idea is to maintain a journal (either in a book or online form). And it can be shared (if you wish) with a few people who actually care about you.

Even i am not perfect. Sometimes even i feel to click a pic or post an update. However, mostly i stop myself until the event has completed and i have thoroughly lived it. Then i rethink whether it should be posted online. Will it be useful for anyone? If the answer is yes, then it its updated, otherwise not. So stop taking a selfie or posting an update instantly. Lets learn to live in the moment. I know it can be hard, as the whole world (or the majority) is doing things the usual way. However its not mandatory that everyone should follow the crowd. Lets enjoy the moments of our life as they come. Lets try to live in the present. Lets push back the thought of immediately posting updates of the happening of our life to sometime later after the event has happened and we have fully experienced it.

Cheers! ๐Ÿ™‚

Life as an N-ary Tree

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Our life is like an n-ary tree.

Each node of n-ary tree can have n or fewer child nodes. In case of our life, every decision point is a node and all possible options or choices which can be made at that decision point are its child nodes. For example: a career choice is a node, which may have various child nodes or options like engineering, medicine, journalism, law etc. Similarly, it can also have minor day to day decision nodes like restaurants to have dinner at and in this case various possible restaurants will be it’s child nodes. Thus this design can handle all types of decisions and its choices as it’s children.

Also if a same decision is to be made at multiple times in one’s life, then in each case it will be a new instance with same or different choices as children. For example one may wish to make a career change multiple times in life and each time there will be a new decision point with new children.

Thus there are no back-links or backtracking possible in our n-ary tree of life. “Life is a one way and forward is the way to go!” After a choice has been made about a decision, it’s a line in stone, which can never be changed. We can always learn from the choices made in past but we can never undo or delete our choices. NEVER. One has to live with the decisions made in the past. It’s good to learn lessons and make better decisions in future.

Next, lets have a look at the traversal strategy of the n-ary tree of life. Only Depth First Search (DFS) is available. It means that we need to make a decision from all the choices. Breadth First Search (BFS) in which case all the options are explored to the paths they lead and then making an informed decision is not available. For example: It would have been great if we could try multiple career choices for a while and then make a final decision. But it is not so. Every decision is final in the n-ary tree of life and it also has its consequences on the choices available and the decisions which can be made in future. In this case “wisdom” is to make the best possible decision from all available choices based on our limited knowledge of choices and it’s repercussions.

Every choice has a pay-off or value associated with it. It is not known to us but again we can make a guess about it based on our “wisdom”. The basic strategy is to choose the path of life which has the maximum pay-off. However given that life offers only Depth First Search and that too without backtracking, it’s really difficult although not impossible to find it. Some of the paths may be close to best, some worst and some mediocre.

Also as in case of n-ary trees, greedy strategy may not be the best possible strategy. Firstly it’s not possible to find the best choice out of allย available choices. And secondly even if the best choice is made, the current best choice may not necessarily be on the best or good paths of life. Similarly, sometimes even a low-paying current choice may actually lie of the better paths of life. Thus we should not to get disheartened by the current low pay-off choice as it may possibly lie on on of the better paths. Always have hope of making better choices in future which lead to better paths.

So actually, our life is not about the road not taken, it’s about the decisions made at every decision point in our life. We are the controllers of our n-ary trees of life. It’s always in our hands to make a decision out of all available choices. Let’s be brave to accept and face the decisions we have taken in past. More importantly, let’s gain the wisdom, to take the right decisions in our lives which maximizes the overall pay-off and leads to the best possible path in life.

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