Book Review: The Midnight Library

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The Midnight Library by
Matt Haig

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Wow, it’s an amazing book with a very unique storyline!

In the beginning, it is a bit slow and glum, and I’m happy I didn’t leave the book at that point. Actually the story is just building up initially.

The lead of the story, Nora, is just tired of her life and her life is filled with regrets. On a particularly bad day when a lot of things turn out badly for her, she just loses hope and meaning to live and decides to take her own life.

However, there’s a twist and that’s where the book begins. Between life and death, she reaches a library, where there are infinite books where every book is a version of her life from the current point onwards. She can choose any book and try out a different life! And come back to the library when a particular life is too much for her and try another one.

This part makes an interesting read and we understand many aspects of Nora’s personality and life, like her dreams and ambitions, her family and friends, her personal and professional life. And while experiencing multiple Nora’s lives, even we have many lessons to learn on the way. It highlights the importance of following one’s dreams rather than someone else’s dreams. It shows that a life with name, fame or money might not always be how we thought it would be. Sometimes how small and insignificant things in our opinion, might turn out to be so important. It shows the importance of meaning, direction and hope in life. And finally, most importantly, that we are the sailors of our life and we can always change the direction where we are heading! We might not always get what we expected but we have the power to choose what we should do next.

The book has some nice lines, which are quote worthy, some of my favorites are:
* “Sometimes the only way to learn is to live.”
* “And there is no right way to play; there are many ways. In chess, as in life, possibility is the basis of everything.”
* “If you aim to be something you are not, you will always fail. Aim to be you.”
* “In becoming everyone, you are becoming no one.”
* “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”
* “We don’t have to do everything in order to be everything, because we are already infinite.”

Also, it has a great ending!

Overall, it’s a thought-provoking book which makes us ponder on our lives. Ofcourse it has some sadness and despair but it also highlights the transformative power of being oneself! It touches on #MentalHealthAwareness so well!

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Turning 30: Looking back & looking ahead

I’m turning 30 pretty soon! And it’s literally freaking me out! I was looking back at some of my past posts and I saw my own post titled “Age is just a number!” I’m surprised that I said that! I read through it and I guess apart from the opening paragraph where I say age is just a number, everything else still seems fine…

30 is a huge milestone! Completing three decades on the planet seems like a really long time. It’s also for the first time that it feels like time is slipping like sand from my hands. This brings an image of a sand-clock in my mind, where I don’t know how much sand is there in the top part! Coincidentally, along with my 30th birthday, the calendar decade is also coming to an end. So my 30s, as well as a new decade of 2020s, start almost together! Surprisingly I had never realized this before probably because I didn’t care about my age in the past!

When we complete the first 10 years, we are just kids and it’s like just another birthday where we have fun being kids. Another 10 years and 20th birthday feels good and gives feels of turning into an adult. The twenties pass by where we mostly complete our education and start working. Life is cool! For the first time in life, the 30th birthday seems huge! It’s the first birthday of my life which is such a big deal for me, otherwise, I have always been pretty chilled out and cool about my birthdays.

I think this 30th milestone birthday is also a good opportunity to think, introspect, reflect back and plan forward. At this goalpost, it’s a good time to objectively think of the decisions we have taken, the choices we have made, our successes and failures, the lessons we have learned, the people we have met, the dreams and plans we have, our hopes and our overall Self. It looks like an appropriate checkpoint to consolidate the life we have lived thus far as well as to re-evaluate our priorities and future ahead.

I thought instead of freaking more about turning 30, I’ll collect some of the key learnings of my life which I learned while completing 30 revolutions around the Sun. We remember recent things than things far back in the past and thus even these lessons might be mostly based on recent years rather than from times long ago.

People

  1. Parents: Parents are special people who genuinely care for us (in most cases). They might not always understand us and sometimes they just fail to get the context of the things we say (probably due to the generation gap). However, it is good to remember that they (in most cases) always intend our well-being. They sacrifice so much of us, their kids, that it makes me genuinely wonder, how and why someone would do that! But they do that and mostly they do that without any regrets! At the same time, they are also humans just like us and make mistakes just like everyone else, including us. It’s best to always shower our love on them and be a receiver of their blessings, as long as we are blessed to have them in our lives.

  2. Mentors: It is difficult for family and friends to be objective towards us. Our friends are sailing the same boat as us, so in most cases, they might lack the larger perspective. And this points to why it is important to have mentors in life. A mentor is like a lighthouse; always there and ready to guide in the right direction. They can give a pat on the back as well as be critical when required. It’s a blessing to find a mentor who matches our personality and on whom we can completely trust.

    “A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you.” ~Bob Proctor

  3. Friends: Friends make our lives fun! It’s not necessary to have a lot of friends. My friends and my friend-list are completely different things. A few close friends to count on are more than enough. At the same time, it’s always good to be on the lookout for new friends. Sometimes we never know that the people we meet might turn out to be ideal friends. Finally, it’s not necessary to have friends of similar age-group. Sometimes people elder (or even younger) can be friends. Also, people’s priorities change over time, so not everyone can be a friend for a lifetime.

  4. Everyone else in the world: Everybody will have an opinion about everything under the sky, including ourselves. And that’s totally okay. The same is true even for us, even we have an opinion or point of view about everything. But the important point here is to take others’ opinions with a pinch of salt, not to care too much about others’ opinions and to take decisions and choices based on our own will and preferences.

  5. Happy to be alone: The world might be filled with people. But there is only one person who knows us exactly how we are, and that’s our own Self. Thus it’s a great skill to be happy and calm in our own company.

    “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.” ~Oscar Wilde

    Life

  6. Money: Of course money is important in life. Money can make our lives simpler and smoother. However, it is also important to remember that money is not everything. If we take the major decisions of our life only on the basis of money, then it might not necessarily be the best thing to do. In my life, I have taken some key decisions without keeping money as the top criteria. And I have never regretted those decisions!

  7. Traveling: One of the best ways to broaden our outlook is to travel (like an explorer or local and not like a tourist). It gives us the opportunity to see the world from a bigger perspective. We understand the commonalities and differences among different cultures including why things are how they are! We learn to adapt ourselves to different environments and discover some of our own characteristics which we ourselves might not be aware of!

  8. Hobbies: All work and no play definitely makes Jack a dull and boring boy. So it’s good and essential to have some hobbies in life. It’s good to try and explore things that we are passionate about and spend some time on those. For example, I like photography, playing keyboard, reading books, etc. Whenever I take a break, I do some of these things. And these hobbies are like restarting a computer! It refreshes our brain and then we get back to our work in a much better state.

  9. Learn: Learning is a life long process. It enhances our skills and helps us gain knowledge and a broader outlook on life. It also makes us adapt better in changing times where we are able to learn things that are necessary for survival in the new context. Even otherwise, learning just for the sake of satisfying curiosity is cool!

    “The capacity to learn is a gift; the ability to learn is a skill; the willingness to learn is a choice.” ~Brian Herbert.


  10. Passion: Finding something which makes us lose sleep, something which excites our neurons and something that we don’t get bored of, is hard. Not everyone finds it! However, just in case if we think that something is a probable candidate, don’t let it go just like that! Work on it and try it out! In the short term, we might have to sacrifice or give up things to pursue it, however in the long term it is worth it! Nothing can be more satisfying than doing things that we are truly passionate about in life!

    “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” ~Steve Jobs

    “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” ~Oprah Winfrey

  11. Health: Health is wealth! And gradually I’m realizing this. Until my mid-20s, whatever I ate, however much I ate and whether I exercised or not didn’t matter. My weight was constant and my energy levels always high. However, since my late 20s, I have gradually started noticing that my weight and energy levels vary based on the kind of food and the amount of food I eat. Exercise is essential! Also, it is better to stay fit and avoid illness rather than curing it! Maintaining good health requires consistent efforts by ourself, for ourself, on ourself.

    Lessons

  12. Do what you can: Sometimes our actions might seem insignificant. They might not have tremendous effects, as we may wish to be. Yet, if our actions are based on our principles and if it is what we want to do, then we should do it anyway. Repeated and consistent efforts can have a compounding effect in the long run and sometimes it is difficult to imagine that when we start.

    One day, an old man was walking along a beach that was littered with thousands of starfish that had been washed ashore by the high tide. As he walked he came upon a young boy who was eagerly throwing the starfish back into the ocean, one by one. Puzzled, the man looked at the boy and asked what he was doing. Without looking up from his task, the boy simply replied, “I’m saving these starfish, Sir”. The old man chuckled aloud, “Son, there are thousands of starfish and only one of you. What difference can you make?” The boy picked up a starfish, gently tossed it into the water and turning to the man, said, “I made a difference to that one!” ~adapted from The Star Thrower, by Loren Eiseley.

  13. Ownership: Taking ownership means associating our selves with the things we do. When we own something, we are responsible for it and we take care of it. Similarly, when we take ownership of our work, we connect our self with it and then we give our 100% to improve it, get it to a point we want it to be and be proud of it. Also if things we own, don’t work out the way we want them to be, we feel responsible regarding it and think of solutions rather than escape routes or excuses.

  14. Believe in our Self: When things don’t exactly happen the way we want it to be, sometimes we blame the circumstances and sometimes we doubt ourselves. Either approach is not appropriate. Of course, not everything will happen as planned, that doesn’t mean that it’s due to our incompetence, there might be so many other factors involved. Thus it’s essential to always have faith in our own self and to always be our own best friend!

    “Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~A. A. Milne 

  15. Be kind: Each and every one of us is on our own journey. It is always easy to judge others or be critical of others. However, just like nobody exactly knows our journey except ourself, similarly we can never know others’ true story and what is going on in their life. Thus it’s always best to be kind, not only to others but to ourselves as well. Also, not just with the people but with all the beings we interact with (like animals and plants).

    “We are all smart. Distinguish yourself by being kind.” ~Prof. Charles Gordon


  16. Have hope: Hope is the only thing that keeps us moving forward. One might have big dreams and elaborate plans but if there is no hope, then it is hard to execute what we want to do. Sometimes, the kind of things that happen in the world makes us wonder if this is the place we want to be? Are we heading in the right direction? But come what may, it is important to never lose hope!

  17. Compromise on the small stuff: Not every battle needs to be fought. It’s okay to let go and not delve into small stuff. These small issues if pursued fervently consume a lot of our time and energy than what it’s worth. Thus it’s okay to let go of small things or stuff that doesn’t matter to us and focus on the bigger goals at hand. Know which games to play and which to ignore!

  18. Ask for help: For me, it’s difficult to ask for help. It feels as though I’m incompetent when I cannot solve my own problems. Thus asking for help hurts my ego. However, I have realized that not all battles are meant to be fought alone. Just talking with someone regarding our problems doesn’t make us incompetent. On the other hand, it provides us different points of view of the problem which we might have not known or ignored. It’s okay to talk to someone we trust in difficult times and ask for help. It’s okay to be vulnerable in our trusted circles.

  19. Okay to fail: I am also the one who always strives for success in everything I do. However, practically it is not always possible to be successful in everything we do. And with this attitude, when failure strikes, it hits real hard. Also when we just focus on the end goal, we forget to enjoy the process. Now onwards, my goal is to normalize failures. It’s should be okay to fail sometimes. I will try to synthesize lessons from my failures and try to move on rather than lingering too long over it. (But I also know that it’s easier said than done!)

  20. Perfection: In continuation, my attitude has also been to be perfect in everything I do. And sometimes, it’s good as it leads to outcomes which are of high quality. However, in most cases, it requires a lot of energy to create perfect results which may not necessarily be required. Also, perfection also has human limits because of which however hard we try, for some goals we just cannot be any more perfect. Also, this attitude of perfection deprives us of experiencing and being happy about things in which we might not be perfect. For example, it’s not necessary that I may draw perfectly, but I can be happy about whatever I draw even though it might not be perfect. Now onwards, I will try to incorporate perfection within limits (not sure something like that is feasible!) and sometimes intentionally leave things to be imperfect when perfection is not that critical.

  21. Take risks: Staying always in the comfort zone is boring. It might be safe but nothing exciting happens there. It is important for us to step outside of our comfort zones sometimes and do the things we want to do. As it is said, no risk, no return! We must be able to take measured risks in life.

    “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far it is possible to go.” ~T.S. Eliot


  22. Stay strong: In some situations in life, we are helpless. Terminal diseases, deaths, major accidents, etc. are things that are not wished for even for enemies. And yet sometimes we find our loved ones and the people we care about, in those situations. It literally breaks our heart and there is nothing much that we can do about it. Feeling helpless is a terrible feeling! The only thing that we must remember in such times is to stay strong!

  23. Accept both good and bad emotions: In a world that is constantly pushing the message about being positive, it’s relieving to know that sometimes it is okay to be not positive. We have a variety of emotions like happiness, sadness, surprise, fear, anxiety, guilt, etc. Some emotions are positive and some seem to be negative. It’s okay for us to feel all these emotions and not just positive emotions. Suppressing “bad” emotions can adversely affect our well-being. On the other hand, a better strategy is to think why are we feeling those emotions and can we do something about it?

    Future

  24. Have goals: It is important to have goals in life. Without goals, life seems meaningless. A goal gives us the purpose to wake up each day and to do something so that we are a little closer to the goal. Goals should be personalized and be regarding things that are important and meaningful for us. For example, one can have goals like losing x kgs of weight in an year or walking y kms every month or writing at least 1 paper per semester, etc.

    If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there. ~Lewis Carroll

  25. Plans: Life is unpredictable. We don’t know what will happen next year, next month or even the next day. However, that does not mean that we should just give up and let things happen as they happen over time. Our actions have the power to change the course of what can happen, just that it is not deterministic. Thus it is always good to have plans, both short and long term. At the same time, one must be aware that things might not happen exactly as planned and it’s okay to dynamically update the plans over time. Plans should chalk out a route to attain our goals.

    कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन | मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि || 2.47 ||

    You have a right to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, nor be attached to inaction.
    – Bhagavad Gita, Chapter II, Verse 47

  26. Dream: Goals are specific. But dreams are generic. It can be about anything we want to do or achieve or see happening in our life or in the world in general. It can be some crazy idea to build something. Or it might be something that might seem to be unattainable or rather impossible. And yet, we should dream. It makes us see and imagine the world beyond ourselves and our limitations.

    Self

  27. Discover our Self: Our Self is intricate. We are only aware of some parts of it. The more we discover our Self the more aware we are. Some parts of our Self, others may be aware of, but we might not know about it. We should do whatever it takes to discover and know our true Self. Our Self is the one tangible truth that is definitely true. Meditate, practice mindfulness, practice stoicism, go on a retreat, talk to a mentor, seek a Guru, whatever works for you, do that, but discover your Self!

  28. Accept our Self: Some aspects of our Self we may be proud of and then there might be some aspects which we might not like. However, we need to accept our Self including all the aspects. Suppressing some aspects just because we or others do not like it or because we are not good enough at it prevents us from being our Self.

  29. Being our true Self: Being our true Self might not sound a bit deal, but in reality, it is! When everyone is trying to be like someone else, to have characteristics of someone else, to achieve things like someone else, it is hard not to follow the crowd! However, we can truly attain inner peace only when we are being our true Self. 

    “Is there a difference between happiness and inner peace? Yes. Happiness depends on conditions being perceived as positive; inner peace does not.” ~Eckhart Tolle

  30. Tune within: Our Self always gives us the signals when something is wrong, when something feels a bit off or when something is not aligned to our principles. If we are drowned in the external noise of the world it is difficult to focus and identify that. We need to be sensitive enough to sense and understand our internal signals. That way, we can detect and modify our course of action. 

    “When I slip outside, I fall. When I slip inside I rise.” ~Swami Chinmayananda

Looking forward to the next decade. 10 years is a long time and a lot happens in that duration. Hope by the end of the next decade, if I’m still around, I won’t be freaking out about turning 40! Also hopefully, I’ll be wiser and more at peace with my Self.

“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back everything is different?” ~C.S. Lewis

One year in the “Real” World

Today marks the completion of one full year in the “real” world for me. I mean since the time i can remember, i was busy with academics… pre-school, school, graduation, post graduation… I was used to my academic life. And its obvious, if we do something for so long then it becomes a habit, a routine, a way of life.

But exactly one year ago, it all came to an end (for now 😉 ). On this day, one year ago, masters convocation was celebrated, graduate degrees were awarded, caps were thrown high in the sky and then suddenly it was time to change… It was not a gradual change. It was a drastic change. Today we were students and tomorrow professionals. It was almost like throwing a fish which had always stayed in the small protective bowl into the huge ocean.  It was known long before, that this would happen, but then, knowing and finally experiencing is a lot different!

This change brought a lot of changes in life… From casual/informal clothes to formals, from night-outs to waking up early, from group studies to group meeting, from classroom to boardroom, from meeting friends daily to meeting them after a lot of planning, from daily chit-chat with friends to infrequent messages on Watsapp, from random project groups to random people in office teams, from grades and spi to ratings, from stipend to salary, from profs and deans to bosses and managers, from parties with friends to team lunches and outings, from walks in college to chai breaks in office, from project meetings to office calls, from daily attendance to filling time-sheet, from real classes to classes and trainings online, from reading 1-2 papers in a semester to reading 1 paper every week. Things have changed, yet they have remained  same…

Life has changed. It was bound to happen. This one year has been like a roller coaster for me! Full of up and downs. More appropriately, downs and ups (in the correct sequence). Faced worse times.. Understood the importance of the area and type of work which i wanted to do, the hard way. Worked hard to bring the change… I am happy, atleast later on, things changed for good for me. In this one year, i have met so many people.. Colleagues and friends. Learnt to handle difficult people and then met some of the the most humble and down to earth people.  Learnt many new cool things! Discovered myself in ways, i myself didn’t know. Understood things i like, things i value. Discovered and worked in areas which i find interesting. Met people, whom i can look up to. “If Winter comes, can Spring be far behind?” ~P.B. Shelly I am happy that for me, spring came when i could wait no more 🙂

I am nostalgic about the previous part of my life. But i am also happy to have experienced the change. It has made me a lot more mature. It has shown me that one needs to put in lots of efforts to fulfil one’s dreams. Also funnily and strangely, its more satisfying to learn life lessons the hard way. I also learnt, that it helps if one knows what one wants. And with what intensity. What things are we ready to give up, in order to get the things we want? Probably, then its easy to take decisions in life. This year has taught me how to prioritize the things that matter the most to me.

Change can be both good and bad,
A person may be both happy and sad.
Its best to learn something new everyday,
Striving ahead, no matter what others say.
Life is not a race, to win or compete,
But to follow one’s dreams, however offbeat.
Creating new music and silencing the din.
Balancing between angels & demons within.

Hoping for happier times ahead, with new lessons and new challenges! 🙂

Istanbul Travelogue

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Prologue…

I did M.Tech. from IIIT-Bangalore in 2012-2014. In the last semester at IIIT-B i did thesis on the effects of entrenchment on cooperative behaviour. It is based on Multi Agent Systems and Game Theory. Had the best time of my academic life so far doing research in an area which i found very interesting. I successfully defended my thesis and graduated. My dream was to get the paper based on my thesis accepted in a good conference. And as they say, if we try hard enough, our dreams do come true! 🙂

We submitted our paper in one of the tier 1 conference in the domain of multi-agent systems. And then one day we got the mail informing about the acceptance of the paper 🙂 I was on cloud nine! It is the best thing that can happen to one’s thesis.

With the acceptance came lots of things and planning to do.. Had to submit the final camera ready paper, create a poster and most importantly look for funding for travel to attend the conference. I would like to thank my employer for funding my trip and giving me the opportunity to present my work and attend the conference. It made things a lot easier. With a tatkal passport, tickets and visa, i was all set to fly to Istanbul, Turkey, the world’s fifth-most-popular tourist destination. 🙂 My first foreign visit! Luckily the Prof. under whose guidance i had done my thesis was also coming with his family 🙂

The Trip…

We boarded Boeing 787 Dreamliner of Qatar Airways! One of the most hi-tech planes of today. And for a window seat lover like me, the huge electrochromism-based smart glass windows were the coolest thing! There was a small stopover at Doha and then we headed to our destination, Istanbul. In the first look itself, Istanbul looked beautiful. Clean roads lined with lawns and trees and with an amazing view of sea, fast moving cars and a pleasant weather just like Bangalore.

We checked in at the Zeynep Sultan Hotel. It had been recently renovated. Had a nice, small and cozy room at a reasonable price in the heart of the city. Major landmarks like the Blue mosque were at a walking distance from our hotel.

We were mainly busy at the conference. It is the first tier 1 conference i have attended. And the difference was obvious. Met people from all over the world. Had interesting discussions during breaks. Our presentation was good. Also attended many other talks and presentations. Saw many posters and demos. So many tracks went on parallelly that sometimes i wished i could be in multiple places at the same time! It was a great learning experience. It was cool to meet so many people from around the world who are all excited about a particular subject (MAS). Also got to see the amazing high quality work that gets accepted in a top conference. I hope i will do more such quality work and present in similar conferences in future 🙂

We also visited the SoSLab of the Boagazici CS department. The university is beautifully located with a wonderful view of the strait. It has a lush green campus situated uphill. Had interesting conversation with the Prof. and students of the lab. Talked about topics like topic modelling, annotations, social semantics, sentiment analysis etc.

Did some sight-seeing in the evenings and over the weekend. Istanbul is a huge city with so many places to see that even a week will be less. The two major highlights of our tour were – the Bosphorus cruise, a two hour cruise with a breathtaking view! We saw wild dolphins! It was awesome 🙂 There were a lot of jellyfishes in the strait. The view on both sides was beautiful with lots of mosques, high end houses with there own yachts, huge suspension bridges and deep blue water and sky! The second highlight was our visit to the Galata tower, one of the oldest towers of the world! Its like the Eiffel tower of Istanbul. The view from up the tower just cannot be described in words! I could stand there forever. The blue strait, houses on slopes with orange slanted roofs, the European and the Asian side and the cool breeze! Enjoyed snacks in the cafe at the top of the tower 🙂 We descended via stairs and saw the tower’s built from the inside with the stony walls and small openings for natural light. We travelled by the world’s second oldest tram which was literally pulled uphill using huge automatic pulleys! Also went to the blue mosque and the gulhane park which were close to our hotel. I promise i will wake up early morning everyday and go for a walk if i have a park like gulhane park close to my house 😉 Huge trees, blooming flowers, chirping birds, lush green lawns, Turkish tea and an amazing view of the strait!

We thought food might be a problem as we are vegetarian. However we mostly found something good to eat 🙂 The breakfast at our hotel was good. I have never tasted such juicy strawberries before. One must try figs and olives in Istanbul. Also tried turkish bread and pizza which was yummy. Our plain Indian dal is called lentil soup in Turkey 😛 which was also good. We found a pure vegetarian restaurant and had delicious falafel! Tried so many new dishes. For food connoisseurs like us it was fun 🙂

The grand finale of our trip was the idyllic time we spent at a cafe in the gulhane park overlooking the Bosphorus. It was a calm and peaceful evening. The sky was slowly changing colours and slowly it was getting dark. And then gradually the Asian side lit up! The view was fantastic. Ships and yachts were sailing across the Bosphorus. We had a yummy HUGE baked stuffed potato (which we craved for since day one :P) and endless cups of turkish tea over interesting discussions. If only time could be paused, i would have paused it then… forever.

Overall, this trip has been an amazing experience. Its a treasured memory for a lifetime 🙂 Rarely things turn out to be better that what we imagine (atleast for me) however this Istanbul trip is an exception, it turned out to be much much more awesome than what i had dreamt 🙂

Bag of words…

Blue. Water. Fishing rods. Selfie Sticks. Reflections. Huge bridges. Speeding cars. Trams. Dolphins! Jelly fishes. Sea Gulls. Birthday. Cruise. Chilly winds. Galata tower. Sloping orange roofed houses. 2 and 4 engine jets leaving streaks in sky. Long walks. Useful pre-trip advice. Turkish music which sounded same. Blue mosque. Huge grand bazaar. Byzantine ruins. MG Road. Full moon background and mosque minarets. Blue symbol which wards off evil. European windows which open from all sides!  Royal shoe polishers. Cats. Lots of cats. Extroverts. Sufi round-round dance 😛 Pide. Strawberries. Olives. Natural Jams. Honey. Huge bread loafs. Vegetable salad. Hot chocolate. Cakes. Different varieties of cheese. Copper tea pots. Mini rice cooker. 3 course rice meal. Fast trams on road. Ice cream vendors. Turkish delights. Baklava. Dry fruits. Spices. Saffron. Sumac. Aryan (buttermilk). Kurus fasulye (white beans cooked in tomato gravy).  Geeky jokes 🙂 Asterix and Obelix. Morse code. ᗅᗺᗷᗅ. Big Bang Theory. Skype Watsapp Viber.  Greenery. Blooming flowers. LOTS of pics. Memories. HAPPINESS.

Some key takeaways…

  • A line which makes us happy when we are sad and sad when we are happy – “This too shall pass!”.
  • Buy experiences, not things. It may seem to be counter-intuitive, but its true!
  • Never give up. Even in case of failure, make the corrections and try again!
  • Sometimes things may not seem to be perfect immediately, but in hindsight, they mostly do!
  • All the hard-work, perseverance and tons of effort seems to be worth it and more when we visit places and attend top conferences.
  • A tier 1 conference is actually number 1 in the quality of work and diversity of gathering!
  • Well maintained water bodies and/or historic relics within city can boost tourism.
  • If the people have basic civic sense, even a city of 14.4 million people can be spotlessly clean.
  • Cats looking like statues may actually be real. 😛 Cats and dogs can happily coexist! Cats actually do not care! 😀
  • Traffic woes are the same everywhere!
  • Trip hangovers can last reallllly long. Even after a week, sometimes i feel i am in Istanbul!

Thanks…

  • Thanks a lot to my Prof. under whose guidance i did my Masters thesis. I look upto him. I have learnt a lot from him, about the interesting courses he taught in college and more importantly about philosophy of life! Thanks a lot for being my guru and mentor!
  • Thanks to my employer for funding my trip and giving me this amazing opportunity of presenting and attending the conference.

Epilogue…

Istanbul is a beautiful city. An amazing conglomeration of people, religions and cultures. Hope i get an opportunity to visit Istanbul again! My first foreign visit is like a cluster of happy memories! I have enjoyed each and every moment of the trip. Hope to have many more such experiences in future 🙂 Life’s good ! 🙂

Plea of the Girl Child

I have big dreams in my heart,
I just want a push to start.
I will do everything i can,
Just let me go ahead with my plan.
Don’t pin me down, set me free,
Give me freedom, let me be me.

Give me your guidance and support,
I will be as strong as a huge fort.
Nurture me with love and care,
Even i can be your rightful heir.
Don’t pin me down, set me free,
Give me freedom, let me be me.

I am brave, I am strong,
I can tackle when things go wrong.
I can judge between wrong and right,
So trust me and have faith in my might.
Don’t pin me down, set me free,
Give me freedom, let me be me.

I will be there whenever you need,
With all my love and respect indeed.
Just one chance is all i ask,
To show my competence in my task.
Don’t pin me down, set me free,
Give me freedom, let me be me.

Don’t force me in a cage when i want to fly,
Don’t cut my wings when i want to soar high.
Don’t kill me as i want to live my dreams,
What will be achieved by silencing my screams?
Don’t pin me down, set me free,
Give me freedom, let me be me.

Dream ‘BIG’

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This is our life. We can live it the way we want. No restrictions, no compulsions. So why settle for anything less than the best. We can achieve whatever we want if we work smartly and with a lot of perseverance. As it is rightly said nothing is impossible. Impossible itself contains the word possible.

The first and foremost step towards any achievement is … ‘a dream’. All successful people have achieved success twice, once in their dreams and once in reality. It is said that it is our dreams which manifest into reality.

All of us are free to dream. God has given us beautiful brains using which we can imagine the unseen and the unpredicted. The power is all in our hands. And there is nothing to lose. So why to stop? Why to compromise? Nobody can scold or punish you for your dreams. Its your dreams, your choice. So why to put a barrier on them.

So what i want to say is that dream ‘BIG’. Don’t curb the limit of your dreams. Dream the best you can imagine. Don’t judge whether it would be feasible or not, or how actually it will be achieved. Just dream what you can.

Here by dream i don’t mean day-dreaming. What i mean is actual serious stuff. Decide what you want in life. Think of the best possible way to achieve it and then start dreaming. Try to visualize as if your dreams have been fulfilled. Don’t sleep to start dreaming 🙂 Stay awake and then dream 🙂

Dreams are our true strength. Dreams have a lot of hidden potential. Just as a huge tree can grow out of a small seed (if it gets water and sunlight) similarly dreams have the potential to turn into reality (if it is clubbed with hard work and determination). Don’t waste this power. All of us are capable of dreaming and achieving things. It’s only that a few of us actually use it while the rest of people are satisfied with the life as it turns out.

One of the most important thing about dreams is that you should believe in your dreams. You must have full faith in them. A little bit of negative attitude or distrust is enough to bring your dreams crashing down. And i think this is too bad. How can we break something which we were building ourselves. Sometimes our mind may play games with us and force us to believe that what we dream is not possible. It is time to just switch off your mind for some time and listen to your heart. Henry Ford said if you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.

Once you are sure of your dreams start working. Do your best. Give you 100%. It’s beautiful to see our dreams unfolding into reality. It gives the ultimate pleasure. One can’t be more satisfied than this.

As Les Brown said, ‘Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss you will land among the stars.’ Even stars will be cool i must say ;-). Don’t feel disheartened about not getting exactly what you dreamt of. Be happy with what you get but try harder the next time.

Try it out. Dream ‘BIG’. Enjoy. Have fun 🙂

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